The day after Halloween was a Friday and the kids had it off. Very early in the morning, I realized that it was going to be a long day for me. The excitement from the night before, the piles of candy, and the desire to eat it ALL in one sitting were overwhelming my kids, especially the little ones. I decided we needed a break.
Just a mile or so down the road from our house is a cute little park. Last summer, they built a splash pad there. This autumn, they put in really cool playground equipment. The park was barely open to the public for the first time, so I decided to take them there.
The equipment was designed to be used by 5-12 year olds. There are several climbing ropes and twisting, spinning poles. There's a climbing wall and a few obstacle course type things. There is also one slide. The three older kids had a blast! Bronson liked the slide, but needed help with just about everything else. Pretty soon, he resorted to chasing other kids around.
It was not too crowded when we first arrived at about 10:30 in the morning, but by about 11:00, it was getting full. I was thinking about heading home when my mom showed up. We were glad to see her. Each of the kids wanted to show her the cool new park equipment. There was a symphony of "Grandma! Watch this!" and "Grandma! Look at me!" as she tried to give each kid her attention. One of my neighbors was there, so we were chatting about the previous night events. Suddenly, Josh came running over screaming. It's sometimes hard to tell if Josh is really hurt or just angry because he cries at the same intensity for everything. However, when I saw blood dripping out of his mouth, I knew it was pretty bad. I looked in his mouth and all I could see was a large, black gash that was oozing a lot of blood. My neighbor offered to get a first aid kit out of her car, but I said, "I think I've got one in mine," and quickly whisked him away to the van. There, I laid him down on the front seat, gave him a sweater to hold to his mouth to slow down the blood, and went looking for the first aid kit. I couldn't find it.
I found out later it was stowed under the seats. Meanwhile, my mom and my neighbor helped round up the other kids and all of our jackets, etc. from the playground. Thank HEAVEN they were there! I'm not sure what I would have done without my mom! I called Dave on his cell phone, probably interrupting a therapy session, and told him what happened. I asked whether I should go to the doctor or the ER. We decided to try the doctor first, because it it across the street from the hospital and we could easily go there if we needed to.
My mom already had shopping and lunch plans with my little sister, Katie, and she couldn't get a hold of her to change them. Still, she offered to take Bronson with her. That was perfect! I could keep the older girls with me, no problem. We quickly loaded up in the van and headed for urgent care.
The drive to the doctor's office was pretty intense. Josh had gone from screaming and crying to silence and occasional moaning. I think he was in shock and may or may not have passed out once or twice. That was almost more worrisome to me than the screaming. Nicole was worried for her brother, and chattering away at 100 miles per hour. She was just processing it in her own way, but it was making me a bit more tense. Alison was freaking out a little bit. In fact, I spent about as much time trying to keep her from passing out as I did Joshua. I kept telling her, "Just go into emergency mode, Al. Tell yourself you can think about it later. Right now, let's just do what needs to be done." It reminded me of something my older sister, the nurse would say. In any case - it worked. She didn't pass out, but she also stayed as far away from the excitement as she could.
I carried Josh into the doctors office. He's heavy! There wasn't anyone at the front desk - it was lunch time. I saw a girl in another office and asked if we could see anyone. She said, "Urgent care doesn't start until 3:00." I said, "Well, he almost bit his tongue off - do you think we can see someone now?" Of course, that was an exaggeration, but it worked. She got on the phone right away, looking for any doctor that wasn't at lunch yet who would see our little boy. I clarified - told her it wasn't dangling, but he might have bitten clear through. She was very kind, as was Josh's regular physician, Dr. Morris, who said to send him right back.
They rushed him right back and started taking care of him while I went back to the desk to sign him in (Alison stayed with me, trying to get away form the blood. Nicole was glued to Josh's side). It wasn't until I tried to sign something that I noticed how bad I was shaking. I guess my adrenaline was pumping. Anyway, the nurse measured him (my barely 5 year old is 4'1") and took a look in his mouth. This was the first time I'd seen it in a while and the bleeding had stopped. I could tell that the cut wasn't all the way through his tongue. I started to wonder if I should have come at all. Right then, another nurse stuck her head in the door and said to me, "Your mother's here. She said she can take your other kids." We went out to the waiting room, and there was Mom and Bronson. She'd gotten a hold of Katie and told her what was going on. She and Katie rescheduled their meeting for later in the day. I told my mom that I didn't think we'd be very long and I could take Bronson back, but she said, "Of course not! Your kids have to eat. I'll take them to lunch while you finish up with Josh." What a Godsend she was! The kids were thrilled, and I could focus on Joshy.
The doctor took a good look at Josh's tongue. The cut didn't go all the way through, and the muscles in his tongue were still working, but it was a large and gaping hole. He decided that he wanted to discuss it with an ENT (Ear Nose and Throat specialist), so he took a picture of the tongue and took it to another doctor in the building.
When he came back, he said, there's not much to do. Stitches on the tongue (and the shot to make it numb) are often worse than the actual injury. Also, mouths heal amazingly fast and are practically immune to infection due to the blood flow and saliva flow in there. He said Josh could eat anything he felt like eating (salty things might sting a bit), as long as he rinsed out the hole afterwards (eww) and to medicate the pain with over the counter stuff.
So, we brought him home and spent the rest of day on the couch, watching DVD's and cuddling. That was a pretty mellow day. I stopped at a fast food joint and bought him some nuggets, a small burger, and a pop on the way home. Grandma dropped the kids off and brought an ice cream shake for the little guy. He tried to eat a few bites, but decided it was NOT happening! He didn't eat anything for the rest of the day. He had ibuprofen and acetaminophen in him, but he still whimpered every few minutes for a while. One thing's for sure. A crisis like that is a good way to forget about Halloween candy. Nobody even mentioned it for practically the whole day.
I worried how things would go that night. I made sure Josh was dosed up when I put him in bed, bracing myself for frequent trips to the basement to comfort and re-medicate him. To my surprise, he never made a sound. The next day, his tongue looked AMAZINGLY, almost freakishly, better. He wasn't sure if he dared eat yet, but by about 10:00 in the morning, he had eaten all the fast food/ice cream from the day before, as well as a fried egg and some toast. I can't believe how fast the mouth heals! The wound was sealed by day two! There's still a hole in his mouth and he'll always have a scar to go along with his story, but he was very blessed that it wasn't worse.